Criticism

[annundriel]

I just need to articulate this or it is going to drive me crazy forever.

I don't mind constructive criticism. In fact, I welcome it. How else can improvements be made? But sometimes the "constructive" part gets left out and all that's there is criticism, which feels a lot like judgment, which leaves me feeling lacking and horrible. And I hate that. It fucks with my emotions for days because I can't just let things go and I end up second-guessing myself all the time.

Comments

[michelerz.livejournal.com]

Oh mary... you can't let another's opinion mess with you, because in the end, you can either take their opinion or let it blow out into the wind. It's hard enough to kill your children [edit your writings], but it's even harder to let someone else murder your children...

((i hadn't heard this whole "murder your children" thing until I went to school for journalism last year, and it makes a lot of sense... you create what you write. it comes from you... so it would be just as hard to throw out or edit your writing, than it would be to dismiss your children.))

cheer up!!!!!!!!!


It fucks with my emotions for days because I can't just let things go and I end up second-guessing myself all the time.

this seems like it came from a rap song... when I find out what song it reminds me of, i'll let you know... :)

[annundriel.livejournal.com]

I know. I know. I like to think I'm getting better at dismissing things that don't work for me, but sometimes that doesn't work. And then that seed of doubt is planted.

I might have heard the "murder your children" before...It makes sense to me. Part of the reason I still have trouble sharing some of my writing is because even if it's not dealing with something personal, it's still very personal in the sense that I obviously had to think a lot about it before writing it.

As for cheering up, I actually feel a lot better having posted this. Like now that it's here, I can let it go.

Thanks, Michele. ::hugs::

this seems like it came from a rap song

Now I'm curious.